Wednesday, January 30, 2008

By the time you figure it out, it's too late

Dealing with someone with dementia is like raising a child. By the time you get it somewhat figured out, it's too late. With children, they're grown; with the demented they're gone.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

You are living my life! Keep blogging--you have such a concise grasp of the changes your mom is undergoing. I wish I hadn't experienced so much self-doubt, when faced with mom's resistance.

I can truly sympathize.

Anne

A Caregiver said...

Thanks, Anne. I'll try to write a new blog post soon. I don't know if it's possible not to be filled with self-doubt when helping a loved one affected by dementia. Even when others have assured me that I've done the right things, I still doubt the choices I have made. Over and over again.

Anonymous said...

I have been reading your blog and am impressed with how open you are about your feelings. I hope it is okay for me to contact you directly. I have a client who is involved in Alzheimer’s treatment research. They are looking for ways to assist those who help care for someone with Alzheimer’s. As an Alzheimer’s blogger, you cover a variety of concerns to caregivers, but I wondered if there was anything in particular you would like me to share with them.

Specifically, what challenges do you face? What things have helped you the most or what resources and information do you need more of? I would be interested in hearing your thoughts.

I will be reading your blog, and you can contact me at dave.schefcik@fleishman.com. I look forward to hearing from you.

Regards,
Dave Schefcik
Fleishman-Hillard

Matt said...

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Please pass this link along to anyone you feel could benefit from it.

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